What’s going on? · 3 min read
Breakups, crushes and rejection
Being rejected, ghosted or broken up with can genuinely hurt. You are not being dramatic.
Why it can feel this way
Closeness and rejection run through the same social-alarm parts of your brain, so a breakup can feel physical—restless, sick, unable to eat or sleep.
Try this now · 2 min
Give the feeling ten honest minutes instead of ten hours of checking their profile. Then move your body, eat something and message one person who is kind to you.
How to say it
“I’m going through something with someone I liked and I don’t really want advice yet. Can you just hang out with me?”
When to get more help
Tell a trusted adult or qualified professional when this keeps coming back, changes sleep or school, or feels too heavy to manage alone.
Step by step
- 1Mute rather than dramatically delete—you can decide later when you are calmer.
- 2Write the message you want to send. Do not send it tonight.
- 3Notice the story you are telling yourself (“nobody will ever like me”) and mark it as a feeling, not a fact.
- 4Plan one ordinary thing for tomorrow: a walk, a friend, practice, food you like.
Walk it through · about 2 min
What happened?
Three quick questions. Nothing is saved or sent anywhere.
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